The Most Important Thing in the World
Washington Post article In the fall of 2007, my husband and I visited his mother in the hospital.
She had a severe stroke.
She was in a coma and was only able to speak by speech, and she could barely communicate.
I asked her to take me with her and to bring me some clothes.
She said no.
I was afraid, and I said, “I’m sorry, Mom, but I can’t do that.
I can do this for you.”
We walked across the street and into a clothing store.
I went to the back and got a white t-shirt and some pants.
Then I went back to the front and got some shirts and pants.
I put them on and started to go inside.
But I couldn’t get inside because of the traffic.
I looked down at the floor.
There was no carpet or anything.
So I went down and asked for a chair, a couch, a pillow, and a blanket.
She didn’t have any of these things.
I started to cry.
She put her hands over my mouth.
I had to explain to her that I didn’t know what I was doing.
She gave me a chair and I sat down on it.
She asked, “Do you want me to stay here?”
She didn, but she wanted me to bring her the blankets.
And I was crying, and crying, crying.
She wanted me in her bed, and we stayed there.
When she got up and saw me crying, she said, She’s right here, right now.
I didn [have] a chair.
She looked at me and she looked at her husband, and they looked at each other.
I said to her, “What are you crying about?
You’re crying about something else.”
She said, I’m crying about the blanket.
Then she put her arms around me and we hugged each other for about 20 minutes.
Then we were sitting on the bed together, and then she said to me, [she was] afraid I would get too depressed and not want to do this.
I couldn [see] her and my husband.
She told me, “It is very important for you to be here.
You are in the best place.
And God is in the way.”
That’s all she said.
Then a day later, I got up, went to her room, and took a blanket from her.
She wasn’t wearing it, so I put it on.
She walked in the room, I walked in, and it was the best feeling of my life.
It was the first time I had a blanket, and the best moment of my entire life.
She just cried for about five minutes.
I sat in my chair and she cried with me.
I think she was crying for two days afterward.
I told her that she was in heaven, and that we could go home, and her tears were gone.
She started crying again, and said, That’s right, you are here now.
And then I asked, You can’t be here, Mom.
I wasn’t sure what to say.
I just sat there, and just stared at her.
I thought she was crazy.
I felt like I couldn to breathe.
And she said in the middle of the night, God is with me, and he will protect me.
She couldn’t even breathe, but God was there.
She came back from the hospital a couple of weeks later, had a seizure, and died at age 52.
I got a $1,000 settlement from the bank.
That’s how she earned that $1.
That was a blessing.
It allowed me to be financially independent and live a happy life.
In the last decade or so, I’ve gone through a lot.
It’s hard, and you try to deal with it.
I’m still living with my dad, and my mom has had her stroke.
I still struggle with depression.
But, I think that’s a blessing because I can see how God has been able to help me deal with this.
He has allowed me the opportunity to live a beautiful life.
I’ve learned how to love myself, how to work hard, how I can be a great husband and father.
I don’t think there’s any reason why I can live without a marriage, because I love my husband so much.
I never really had the ability to go through my life without my husband, which is one of the reasons I want to share that with others.